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Has Facebook made us lazy in friendship?

June 4, 2013

In a word, yes. In a few more words…

MjAxMi1jZjZlYzAxZjEwODQwOWY2Gone are the days when we have to pick up the phone or set aside time to catch up with old friends. Now we frequently know TMI about a random friend from third grade.

Our parents’ generation constantly had to update address books and touch base every so often or risk not being able to find an old friend. The fact that I know I can always reach an old friend by typing their name into Facebook — should I need/want to — has made me lazy in maintaining friendships.

Maybe it’s because I moved and started over so many times as a kid, but it almost feels normal to have completely different groups of friends at different times in life. In fact, it feels strange to have a couple friends who I’ve been close with for about 15 years now.

I realize how many people I’ve lost touch with when I see Facebook photos from an get-together, such as a wedding, where a bunch of people I used to be close with were in attendance.

New mission.

To use Facebook to my advantage — rather than as a hindrance — each week, I’m going to try to reach out to an old friend with whom I accidentally lost touch. Now, where to begin?

Have you ever sent someone a message out of the blue? How did they react?

2 Comments leave one →
  1. June 4, 2013 4:05 pm

    Obviously you know how i I feel about this if you’ve read my blog recently, haha, but I agree that Facebook can lead to laziness in maintaining friendships. I didn’t realize how much I used it as a substitute for actually asking someone what they did this weekend or how their vacation was.

    I’m a big fan of the out-of-the-blue message, regardless of the medium. Another tip: write down birthdays on a calendar, instead of relying on Facebook. You’ll remember the dates better.

    • June 4, 2013 8:53 pm

      Exactly. Sometimes I honestly have nothing to say to people because I already know where they’ve been, what they’ve done, and how it was.

      I hope others enjoy an out-of-the-blue message. I’m just afraid people won’t respond.

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